Pornography is Satan's tool....or...just A tool?
Who would have thought I'd change my view on this one!!!
It started about a year ago, when an elementary school principal told me about an educational conference he'd attended. An interview had been shown, in which some horrible criminal suggested that his inappropriate activity had begun with an addiction to porn.
I thought to myself...surely people realize that plenty of individuals view porn on a regular basis without becoming rapists and murderers? I mean...seriously??? We're going to teach people porn is bad -- because some crazy guy liked it and also did horrible things? As if there's a cause-and-effect relationship? Sounds a little sensational to me.
Not to say that I think pornography is not potentially addictive, or potentially perversive. But so are a lot of things, particularly when they are approached for inappropriate reasons. And colored by guilt. Like overeating!! Yep. Reminds me of the vicious dieting cycle...
I watched a movie once in which a main character suggested that pornography is intended not for entertainment, but "purely for functional reasons." That made me think. Is there a function for pornography?
Conclusion: Yes. I think there is. For now, I think pornography can help people to deal with sexual needs, without participating in rash behavior. I do worry a little, that pornographic material might cultivate unrealistic expectations? I would be interested in the research (as opposed to the speculation) on this one. I'm sure there is some.
I think much of why pornography is damaging to relationships is because of the values assigned, which may not be accurate values. For example, if a wife interprets her husband's use of porn as a reflection of her own inadequacy - then YEAH, that's going to hurt! But what about a relationship in which there is mutual recognition of porn as functional (sexual desire can't be satisfied by sex ALL the time, right?), rather than as a reflection of a heart's *true* desire?
I don't know! Like I said, I need to think more about this one.